Every now and then, I avoid certain places and certain situation that I might end being annoyed or frustrated, such as passing by a cell phone store kiosk. Those sales people are annoying! I understand that they are just doing their job, similar to pushy car salesmen, but they get on my nerves. And since I still have a bit of anger issues, I'd rather just avoid those paths at the mall.
Some people might say that I am letting others limit my freedom to go wherever I am, and they may be right. But I care more about my sense of peace than my entitlement to freedom.
Others might say that I need to get over taking things too personally. Yes! I agree. And I admit it, I do let those fuckers get to me, even as I preach about how cognitive distortions are messing us up. I understand the mechanism behind the selling game. And it is, in fact, psychological. To be honest with you, I am... still... a work in progress. I know myself enough that avoiding is the best decision while I work on myself.
For the sake of my self-esteem, I avoid situation that will trigger deep emotional wounds. I have a long term strategy to implement. It involves building my self-esteem, increasing economic capacity and social status, strengthening social network, and developing new skills of dealing with others. You see, I am a work in progress and, in order to continue the fight, I must choose my battles wisely.
Hi. I'm Kent and this is my blog. Let me know what you think.